christian coaching, life coaching

How to be a friend: Know yourself

In counseling we have a term called self awareness. To be a good friend it is important to know who YOU are. This means being aware of your strengths, weaknesses and triggers. This is what self awareness is. We need to understand who we are and how we interact with others. For many of us this is difficult, we have never been real with ourselves. We have no idea how others perceive our interactions. Some of us walk around never smiling or maybe we smile often. If you interact with a person who never smiles some people find it intimidating or it can make a person uneasy. 

To begin list your strengths and weaknesses. After you make the list ask yourself if you are okay with what you see. It is difficult to have strong friendships if you are uncomfortable with who you are. When looking over the list it is a great opportunity to consider areas that might need growth.

Another thing I encourage you to do is pay attention to your facial expressions through out the day. What kind of message are you giving off to people? Does your face say you are happy or joyful? Or does it say stand back I am grouchy? How we come across in our body language can say a lot about who we are and what is truly going on inside of us. Being a great friend starts with being okay with YOU! Blessings, we will continue tomorrow!